“And it came to pass afterward that [Samson] loved a women…whose name was Delilah.”                                                                                                                                               (Judges 16)

“David arose from off his bed, [and] saw a women washing herself; and the women was very beautiful to look upon.”  (2 Samuel 11)

 

Readers,

I love my wife with all my heart. My love and loyalty to Christ is greater, however.  When in the world I was not without a pretty girl.  My Wife was not my first love, but she is my last love.  Having said that, Christ has been my great love,  My wife is the wife of my youth, but Christ has been my Valentine from eternity past. Christ is my preeminent love and He shall always be. Like David and Jonathan, I love Christ Jesus as my own soul.

Reader, does this shock you?  Does this make you uncomfortable?  Do you wonder, ” What does his wife think of that?”  My wife thinks the same as I do,  pardon my use of words, but my wife and I have an open marriage…we both have a love for Christ and He lives with us and is part of our marriage.

Are you made even more uncomfortable, Reader?  Understand, the saint’s loyalty, love, and fidelity to Christ transcends any similarity to human relationships.  This is the mystical and spiritual bond between saint and Saviour.  In our home Christ is my great love from eternity past through eternity future, my wife is the wife of my youth and she is one with me, we are of one mind and one goal…we are of one essense as the Trinity is of one essense and is of one Communal Mind and will. My children understand this, they come after Christ and and they come after the wife of my youth.  We have raised them in this same spirit, Christus Solus or Christ Only.  They will love Christ more than their husbands and if the husband is right for our daughters they too will love Christ ahead of their love for our daughters.

If this seems foreign to you, if this seems uncomfortable to you, if this makes no sense to you, hence the problems and the unfullfillment you find in your marriage.  The Christ-ian marriage is a marriage like any other, there are trials, there are mountains. there are valleys. The Christ-ian has dry periods, and periods of pleasure, joy, happiness, laughter and satisfaction.  In the down time, in the dry times there is no thought of what could have been or if only or the thought of divorce.  Why?  Because both spouses have pledge and vowed unity to Christ.  Even if there is a time when a Christ-ian couple thinks, “Life would be better without X,”  The promise and vow to Christ steps in.

Falling in love is never something one should base any kind of long term relationship on.  A marriage should not be built upon falling in love. Reader, “Falling in love” is nothing more than a chemical reaction of the brain!!!  Those feelings of excitement and wanting to see your special person are tricks of the flesh.  Peas and chocalate have the same chemicals in them that are released in your brain when you “fall in love.”  Reader, Let’s think logically. What happens when a person falls?  The person that falls gets hurt!!!.  A relationship must never be built upon “falling in love” or feelings or the lusts of the flesh.

Falling in love is a trick of the flesh and a simple release of a chemical in one’s brain…the excitement,  the ‘will s/he call me,’  the ‘I can’t wait to see him or her,’ it’s all a chemical release from the brain, a trick of the flesh!!!.  A person that falls in love will soon fall out of love. Marriages cannot and must not be based of the tricks of the flesh!!!

Falling in love and love are two (2) different things.  Falling in love is a feeling and love is a choice, a decision.  The Christ-ian must not base a life long unity on feelings that will go away or settle down.  The Christ-ian does not date person after person to find a spouse. A Christ-ian does not date to simple have a good time.  No1 No! No! The Christ-ian considers carefully the person they are interested in.

The Christ-ian considers things like how does this person treat his or her parents,  What intentions does this person have for the future? What is his or her family like?  Does this person have good prospects for the future?  The very vital requirements are, does this person love God…really love God?   Does this person attend Church? Is this person serious about Faith?  Will this person make a good parent?  Is this person responsible and dependable?   What are this person’s friends like? Does this person treat me with respect? Does this person respect my family? Does this person treat animals well?  Does this person consider my feelings and ideas?  Does this person listen when I talk to him or her?  Does this person follow Christ? Is this person loyal to Christ?  Does this person submit to Christ and His authority?  Will this person see that and want Christ to be the head of our home?  Does this person seek Christ’s will and counsel in all matters?

Reader, The above are the right considerations one should look into when searching for a spouse.  One must not be led by their heart….it is the fool that follows the heart. The mind must always direct the heart in all matters, especially in choosing a person to spend the rest of your life with, especially when choosing the future parent of your child.

Reader, if these seem to be old fashion views, I know not what to tell you other than these work and the world’s concept of love does not.  Falling in love and basing one’s long life (DV) on the feelings of love will break a heart and ruin a life and harm the child(ren) from the fatally flawed and false felt fling.  Choosing the right person based on sound truth will make for a good and fruitful marriage that will glorify God.

Godspeed

Godspeed.