“And, ye fathers, provoke not a your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.”  (Ephesians 5)

“Somethereforte cried one thing, and some another: for the assembly was confused: and the more part knew not wherefore they were come together.” (Acts 19)

 

Many times we have seen parents yelling and screaming at their children and sometimes the child, toddler, baby is crying back. This is not the wise or proper way to discipline or chasten a child. This is not how God chastens or disciplines His own. When a parent is yelling and gesturing or spanking a child, when the parent is most angry is child abuse and there is no doubt on that fact.

In Hebrews, the author says some parents discipline their child(ren) out of anger and with the intent of relieving themselves of anger.  Sometimes the parent will inflict upon the child, that has done wrong, all of his or her stress and anger. The child is a punching bag. This kind of parent may not even understand that they are releasing anger upon their child when the child does wrong and is chastened or disciplined.

The texts above, especially the second (2nd) text demonstrates or displays the dynamic of shouting parents and shouting children.  Everyone is yelling and crying but know one is benefitting by this scene. No one will be helped by this.  It is all emotion and know structure.

Parents must stop, think things through thoroughly, compose themselves and then have a discussion with the child.  I am pro spanking, but it must be done with composure, control, and objectivity. The discipline must play out with conversation, understanding, the judging of one’s self and confession to God before chastening begin. Once the discipline is over, both child and parent must hug each other and know that they both were obeying God’s Word in an objective way. Prayer and confession to God for the wrong that was done must be made, even the parent must confess, at that time his or her sins before God and the child(ren) because family is a unit and it is special and the family must be for each other, even in times of discipline.

The above is a sensical, logical, Scriptural, and wise manner of parenting.

If you are a parent that receives relief when you chasten your child, you are wrong and God is not pleased. Parents, love your child the way God loves you.

If any reader is a child and being hurt or abused let someone know, let me know and God willing, we will be glad to help and know this, God sees and knows and their is some wisdom and goodness in all situations.

Godspeed.